Suggested Reading List for Parents Adopting School Aged Children
Building the Bonds of Attachment by Daniel Hughes, PhD, Jason Aronson, 1998. This book explains the process of attachment, and provides a case study example of an older adopted child with attachment disorder.
The Essential Link: Attachment and Bonding Information for Adoptive Parents by Susan Ward, Heritage Communications, 2001. Concise, easy-to-read summary of what attachment is, tips for creating a strong attachment, a description of RAD (reactive attachment disorder), and a list of resources. Just newly updated.
When Love is Not Enough by Nancy Thomas. Therapeutic parenting manual for dealing with challenging, defiant, rage-filled, and controlling children, especially those with RAD. Many parents of tough kids think of this book as their “bible.”
Our First Year Together: Hannah and Her Mama by Susan M. Ward, Heritage Communications, 1999. A behind-the-scenes look at a family in the making. Day by day entries covering adjustment, discipline, starting school, learning English, grief, and more. Honest and hopeful.
Parenting With Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay, Pinon Press. Considered by many to be the best parenting book ever! Teaches parents how to stay out of control battles. Discusses implementation of consequences that induce cooperation and growth.
20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge, Dell Books, 1999. Adoptive parents need to know how their adopted children feel and think. This book provides a window into perspectives we may not have considered, and is written by a psychologist who was adopted as a child.
Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids by G. C. Keck and R.M. Kupecky, Pinon Press. The book provides lots of case studies along with practical tips for adopting and adjusting to a child from a challenging background. Attachment is a major topic in the book.
Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, by Deborah Gray. Written from a reassuringly professional point of view, it’s also full of vignettes that are easy to relate to. She clearly lays out the 7 stages of attachment, and makes it clear that there is no correct timetable for achieving each of them.
When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD Reactive Attachment Disorder by Nancy L. Thomas.
Help for the Hopeless Child: A Guide for Families (With Special Discussion for Assessing and Treating the Post-Institutionalized Child) By Ronald Steven Federici.