Comments OffOctober 26, 2014by adminin

Adoption Language

 The way we talk, and the words we choose, say a lot about what we think and value.  When we use positive adoption language, we say that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is.  Both are important but one is not more important that the other.

Choose the following positive adoption language instead of the negative talk that helps perpetuate the myth that adoption is second best.  By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of innuendo.

Positive Language

Negative Language

Birthparent Real Parent
Biological Parent Natural Parent
Birth Child Own Child
My Child Adopted Child, Own Child
Born to unmarried parents Illegitimate
Terminate Parental Rights Give U
Make and Adoption Plan Give Away
To Parent To Keep
Waiting Child Adoptable Child, Available Child
Biological Father Begettor
Making Contact with Reunion
Parent Adoptive Parent
International Adoption Foreign Adoption
Adoption Triad Adoption Triangle
Permission to Sign Release Disclosure
Search Track Down Parents
Child Placed for Adoption An Unwanted Child
Court Termination Child Taken Away
Child with Special Needs Handicapped Child
Child from Abroad Foreign Child
Was adopted is adopted

Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings.  When a TV movie talks about a custody battle between “real parents” and “other parents” society gets the wrong impression that only birth parents are real parents and that adoptive parents aren’t real parents.  Members of society may also wrongly conclude that all adoptions are “battles”

Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these.  By using positive adoption language, we can educate others about adoption.  We choose emotionally “correct” words over emotionally laden words.  We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting other so that this will someday become the norm.